One sort of guy who "works at" getting better with women and tries to attract women is the aspiring pick up artist.
The most telling thing about pickup artists (aka PUAs) is that most guys who get women Cheap Men's Nike Air Max 720 Triple Black Trainers UK , who get labeled as them eventually wish they weren't. And most of the real pickup artists out there are guys you've never heard of, with no products to sell, no nine-step system, and no notoriety except amongst a few of their buddies and the legions of women they've slept with.
I'm friends with a lot of guys on facebook who add PUA to their name... silly things like Icedragon PUA or Adam PUA. No disrespect, but that sort of thing really smacks of an identity that is flapping around in the wind.
We all have a notion of who we are - this is called our "identity". Our behaviors are tied to this identity. So if you've been told that you're a "nice guy" your whole life, and that's what you believe about yourself, then you'll probably be, well, nice. You'll do nice things for people Cheap Men's Nike Air Max 270 Shoes White UK , go out of your way to help people, and you'll probably be very considerate of others.
Nothing wrong with any of that.
But if being a nice guy prevents you from doing things that, in your conception of a "nice guy", aren't very nice, then you might have a hard time doing some of the stuff that women find insanely attractive and you will find it hard to get women. It just doesn't "feel right."
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This isn't to harp on nice guys. A kid who grows up on the streets and is told that he's a "thug" his whole life is probably going to have to make some adjustments if he manages to escape the hood and join Cheap Men's Nike Air Max 270 Flyknit Shoes Olive Flak UK , say, the business community. His identity is going to drive a set of behaviors that are defensive, walled-off... all the stuff he needed to survive in the streets.
Another example is the kid who grows up in an upper-middle class household, gets everything handed to him on a silver plate, and never learns to hustle. He skates through college Cheap Men's Nike Air Max 270 Triple Black Shoes UK , then gets out into the real world and lands a sales job. If he still holds onto the notion that he's above hustling - a prerequisite for any good sales guy - he's going to find his ass out of that job mighty fast.
Point being, when we have a conception of who we are, one that's been reinforced for anywhere from fifteen to fifty years, it can be tough to break out of the mold. Sometimes it's easier to adopt a new identity, or alter-ego Cheap Nike Air Max 97 CR7 Shoes Metallic Silver Varsity Red UK , altogether.
Since The Game and The Pickup Artist came out, many men have decided that being a pickup artist is preferable to being whatever else they may currently be. Often, this is accompanied by the addition of outlandish clothing, silly hats, and certain behaviors and values that somehow permeated the "pickup community". Many of these are counter-productive [url
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